What I've learned about 15 year old boys:
1. They are dirty and smelly
2. They are extremely moody
3. They eat a TON. We went through a gallon of milk in two days.
4. They are naive to the world around them. But then again maybe as adults we are just tainted.
5. You really can't explain or reason with them or win any sort of debate because THEY ARE KNOW-IT-ALLS!
These are just a few of the observations I've had so far. And truly, the observations aren't all bad...I'm just pointing out some of the new ones.
But I'm struggling with an issue that I really don't know how to put into words. I think I'm still dumbstruck by the insanity of it. Pat and I are on the same page as far as human rights issues go. Aedan is being raised the same way although he obsessively stares at people who aren't as milky white as his mother. We're working on that! Let's just say it makes me a little uncomfortable and I feel like I have to apologize or something.
Without getting too deep into this topic there have been a few conversations with CTP that raise those little hairs on the back of my neck. I don't know if he's just joking in the way 15 year olds do or being serious. For example, I was watching SYTYCD last night and he made a comment that the male dancers were gay. Whaaaaat? I don't know where that's coming from and it's making me crazy! What is my role? How far can I go?
The environment that has been created in my home is one of understanding and love of all people (well, except people who hurt children). I don't give a flip what people do in their private life or who they love as long as they are being loved. Gay couples should have the same basic human rights as Pat and I do and I certainly don't care if a dancer is gay, straight, orange, or purple. Can they dance? Fantastic!
This is the hard stuff. This is nothing like hiding my pudding or making sure I have a robe on when I get out of the shower. I know what I would say to a friend or family member or my legislator. It's rough terrain with CTP because I'm concerned that what I say will cause problems for he and Pat and court and custody and support. So I step down from my box and lower my flag and hush up.
Reading to my Animals
2 comments:
that is hard. i trust you. i respect byou. there are times to wave your flag and times to know when to wait patienty. that is wisdom. you will be his mother (step-schmep) for a long time. you will have a life time to set an example for him by the way you live, the jokes you don't laugh at, the quiet conversations that will happen between the two of you. pray about it. God gets it. He will find you opportunites throughout life to help you show this boy what true accepting love is. if you feel now is not the time to fight that fight, i think you should listen to your instinct.
i love you,
k
First of all isn't it funny that the description that started this out could also describe a toddler...at least my toddler.
I always believed but now I know for sure that kids learn from what we do more than what we say. The environment you have created will be very beneficial.
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